today i went to church, after a verryy looong tiimme (about 1 year and a half). The topic was "Speaking Truth in Love". the speaker (i forgot his name..) gave many insights on the topic.
Example: what if you have a friend who has B.O. body odor? or bad breath? or a friend who has an attitude? how will you tell that person in a NICE way? hmm... if you speak the truth but without love, you are prone to initiating broken relationships. if you love the person so much that you don't want to tell the truth, that is not love. No commitment there. Titiisin mo nalang ang amoy? you have to tell your friend. or else you're not a true friend.
what if you are the one being spoken to? even in trivial things..such as "nagpagupit ka? hindi bagay!!! bakit ka nagpagupit!!!" "ang dry ng hair mo!!!" "naghuhugas ka ba ng mukha? ang dami mo kasing pimples eh." ouch. of course, you'll just smile away the pain...until the wound heals. and you'll be able to smile true again.
oftentimes we are sensitive.
even to small physical things..even if the person means well, we still get hurt. it's just a matter of how well we take the truth that's revealed to us. either we dismiss the comment or we accept it. on the side of the speaker, we should be more sensitive. before saying anything, we must think it through first. and depending on the emotional and sensitive attributes of the peroson to be talked to, we should rephrase our comment in such a way that yes, it will hurt a little, but after a while, it should help in the healing process.
I am becoming bitter and bitter by the moment. Have to stop this or i'll become a pathetic worn-out tupperware. on the other hand, i may also become a pot of bioling water that burns anyone who dares to touch me.